One day, exasperated by my, yet another attempt at figuring out how to avoid doing something, my husband remarked; “Your whole life is spent in making things easier for yourself.”
What struck me wasn’t that he said what he said, but that he had used it in such an…unenthusiastic way.
I mean, how can making things easier for myself be anything but pragmatic? Don’t we all do that? Don’t we?
I have told and retold that little anecdote many times over, it is one of my favorite anecdotes to tell, because I love hearing people’s reactions to it. One of my friends had quite an insight: “Now that I think about it, I have spent my life making things harder for myself.”
It’s a common fallacy, I suppose, that the harder it is, the more valuable it is.
But it shouldn’t be. We should make it as easy as possible. It sounds counter intuitive, but yes, take the easy way when you can.
I walk away from hardship. When I can. I choose the easy way. When I can.
Yes, I have, perhaps, missed some (maybe even many!) opportunities because of this attitude to life, but the more I learn about life, the more I am convinced, life must be that simple. And joyful. With all its ups and downs. With all the regrets.
I am a former self-help addict (a life examiner), on a continuous lookout for easy ways to organize, keep in shape, eat, dress, travel, parent, socialize, love and, most importantly, live.
I have come to a point in my life where I want to share what I have learned and tried, in other ways than occasionally bursting out on Facebook or verbalizing to a friend over a cup of coffee.
I needed order and a platform for my collection of thoughts, experiences, likes and dislikes and, yes, opinions.
In my private life, I am a prolific writer. As Joan Didion famously said: “I don’t know what I think until I write it down” and that would be very true for me.
So, as people do, I decided to start a blog.
Choosing Easy seemed like an appropriate title for what I want to convey.
While I am still learning to define myself in fluid terms that can withstand change, here are a few facts about me that may paint a picture.
I am a xennial (it’s a legitimate generation!), a mother of two, a wife to a man sixteen year my senior and my best friend, a traveler, a former United Nations staffer who has held a full-time job since 18 years old, a lifelong learner, a yoga instructor (did the 200 hours training, but have never and may never teach a class!!), a certified Feng Shui consultant, a voracious reader with vast interests, a renaissance soul with a growing tendency to start many things and leave most of them unfinished, a hard sci-fi fan in books and movies.
And so much more. Like we all are. So much more than we imagine we are or identify with.
Welcome to my very own virtual home. Please stay a while.