Although I try to keep my posts focused, I know I will ramble a little bit in this one until I get to my point.
I think my main reason for starting this blog was to give myself a platform for some musings, although I was trying hard not to make it a journaling type of blog, because…who would want to read someone’s stream of consciousness (hello, Ulysses!)
When I started this blog, in a before unseen act of Inspired Action, I was going to call it Musings of a Xennial, but a friend talked me out of it. I still like that name though.
This week I was reading blog posts by many lifestyle bloggers and I asked myself what I love most in other blogs. I have followed some blogs for years and they all have one thing in common – they are all personal first, advice, and educational later.
I love lurking into other people’s lives (although I am aware we only show what we want to show to those who aren’t close to us), but also I love reading about how others’ personal experiences tie into what I am going through or thinking about.
Yes, I read other niche blogs, too.
The ever-popular blogs on blogging, travel blogs, writing blogs, blogs on minimalism and self-development. But the blogs I stick with for years are the lifestyle/personal blogs.
Why is that?
I eventually get what I need from the other blog types and move on. But those that share their personal stories, I am glued to.
I believe that most of us can only truly share from experience.
And that is the kind of legacy I want to create here, in my own little space on the Internet.
An Inspired Action for a Good Start
On my 43rd birthday I had an idea – I should have my own blog.
In an act of Inspired Action, within three days I had a name, a domain and a host knowing nothing about how to build a WordPress website.
Two Linkedin Courses later and many Google and You Tube searches, I had set up the site and written a few posts. And all that with a full time job, kids and family obligations.
I am not writing this to brag, but to share that once again it proves true; when you really want something, you make the time to do it.
I let my sister read it and she said “where do you get the time to do this?”
Time makes itself, I did not consciously create it.
I won’t lie to you, there were some late nights and time away from family, but… here it is. I know how to build a self-hosted WordPress site. (and still learning the ins and outs of blogging)
Now, the old me would have done something like this:
Me: I need my own blog! What a great idea! I can have my own platform to share all the things that interest me, that I learned, in a focused way. Let me pick a name and buy a domain.
Me again: But wait, really, you don’t know how to build a website. You don’t have time for that anyway. Besides, who will read your stuff? People will say, who is she to share anything at all? Plus, you are a starter, but not a finisher. Everyone knows that you are doomed to abandon the blog as well.
And more in that direction of fear and doubt until I would lose the momentum.
Now that I have started, I wonder why I didn’t do so 10 years ago. I have always loved writing, I share my life on my Facebook profile, I engage on the Internet… This was an obvious step. Never even occurred to me.
But when it did, on my birthday on 03 May, I bought the domain and hosting on 06 May. Just like that. I splurged. I even felt a bit guilty but managed that little negativity by thinking of it as a birthday present to myself.
My Guiding Word for 2020
I waited a lot in my life, especially while contemplating taking actions like this, but maybe subconsciously, I didn’t wait this time because my Guiding Word for 2020 was ACTION (this is before I knew the year would turn into such a disaster for the world).
ACTION: Take action, don’t wait for the perfect moment, a better opportunity. Do what you can with what you have now.
A lot of things conspired to get me to this mindset, one of them Big Magic, a book by Elizabeth Gilbert. Creative Living Beyond Fear. Here I come.
It was my second read through and I was reminded again that ideas are alive; they look for people to help them come to life, but they won’t stick around for long.
Countless of my ideas have moved onto other people because I never thought I could or should or that it was the right time.
I see that most successes come from ideas of Inspired Action.
You get it, you do it without thinking about why you shouldn’t or what could go wrong.
Ending My Musings…
Now, I am not writing this from a place of grand success of my blog, no, but the fact that I even started is already my success. I’ve put my writing out there and I happily share it with others.
I had rarely done this before, probably out of fear of putting myself out there in an uncontrolled way. Because, your writing, once out of your hands, is no longer yours…especially on the Internet.
I have a writer friend who bravely shares what she writes just to get feedback. Even my husband wrote a memoir short story and immediately shared it for feedback.
I wrote a whole novel (not kidding) the whole 80.0000 words of it and haven’t yet shown it to anyone.
I am slowly moving beyond that fear.